Man, this has cut deep with me. I know D3 Tennis is not the #1 priority in this world right now, but anyone involved in the sport knows how much it matters to a whole lot of people. I’ve been struck with how often I’m hearing, “This is all so crazy.” It’s true, and it sums up how we’re all feeling. But we’re all feeling more than that, too. I know for me, there’s a good dose of confusion about all of this, and uneasiness about what’s ahead. That said, I also refuse to suspend the belief that eventually, there will be brighter days, and that we all appreciate them a lot more. What I’d do for a regular old day right about now…
Anyway, when it comes to D3 Tennis, yes, I’m bummed I won’t get to follow it and talk about it for the next few months, but I’m way more sad for the players, coaches, and parents directly involved. I know that if I was still playing, I’d be heartbroken right now. If I was a senior, I’d be downright inconsolable. And while I was probably more into D3 Tennis than most (and still am, given I’m a Blogger), I’m certain that there are a lot of people with a lot of FEELINGS right now.
So here’s your chance to let them out and share! Reach out to me via email at d3regionalnec@gmail.com or DM me on Twitter @d3regionalnec. You can also send your thoughts to any other Blogger if you prefer. This is an open forum and is not at all limited to just men’s tennis, either. You can talk about what this experience of having the season cancelled has been like, how you’re feeling right now, or even which teams you think had the biggest opportunity taken from them. Coaches, consider this a great chance to give your seniors the love they deserve. Write as much or as little as you want. My one request is that we steer clear of arguments about the decision to cancel everything. That’s not the point of this. I’m committed to sharing as many people’s thoughts as possible, and am happy to keep you anonymous, semi-anonymous, or identify you by your name if you prefer.
I haven’t exactly decided how to format this yet—whether it’s one big post, a few smaller ones divided by topic, or individual posts, maybe with some interview questions—but I’ll figure that out based on what the responses look like. I’ve already gotten a good amount of feedback since I tweeted about this last night, and I’m hoping that continues.
Really hoping to hear from many more of you for this. Otherwise you’ll just be stuck with me and D3NE writing walls of text full of sadness.
Take care everyone.
I’d thought I’d seen everything in my 20-plus years of coaching. But last week I navigated entirely new waters. Traveling with the team on one of our season highlights — the spring break trip to Florida — I felt every emotion and supported the girls as they managed theirs. In a span of three days Coronavirus flipped our world upside down.
It began with small warning signs: conferences imposing travel restrictions, teams canceling spring break trips within days of competition. But we continued to press on, business as usual. We arrived in Florida on Sunday night, ready to get started on a week of training and competition. But something was off, and it only took two days for us to realize that this situation was a lot more serious than we had originally thought. The girls began to receive news from their collegiate friends about schools closing, seasons being cancelled. There was a palpable sense of uncertainty in the air as we all began to wonder – what is going to happen to us?
Then, on Wednesday night, our announcement came. Emory. Closed. We tried to find a silver lining in the announcement – some shred of hope that school could be cancelled, but athletics could continue on. The notification said that there may be accommodations made for some groups of students to stay on campus. Would that be us? They couldn’t really cancel our season, could they? Would a “delay” even be an option? We waited, pontificated, slept restlessly. It was as though we could feel our season, our hard work, and essentially, our way of life, slipping through our hands.
We woke up on Thursday morning and did what we knew best — went to practice. Amidst all of the madness, it was the only thing that could provide us with a sense of comfort and normalcy. We made the practice as fun as we could, knowing full well that it could be our last. As we got into our vans to head back to the AirBnB, we received the notification that felt like a death sentence: the NCAA cancelled all winter and spring championships. Up until that point we had been clinging to the hope that Emory would house us, allow us to continue training together, being together. But this was a punch in the gut. We would all separate. The hard work we had already put in was all for naught. And as the reality of it all began to sink in, questions rushed through my mind:
For the players who are playing really well, can they keep it up?
For the players getting over a hump, will we have to start over with that work next year, or will they come back right where they are?
For the players who are struggling, would some time off be a reset button for them?
For all of my players, how would they handle having one of their four precious seasons taken away from them?
Our team was just beginning to gel. Would this experience make us stronger, or tear apart the bonds that we had just begun to form?
As terrible as it all felt, I knew it could have been much worse for me and for my team. Once I regained perspective, I was able to count our blessings…
…We are fortunate that we’re not farther along in the season (winter season colleagues were about to board the bus for their respective championships).
…We are fortunate that nobody we know or anyone our team knows has been directly affected by COVID-19, yet.
…We are fortunate that we have a young roster. It is the first time in my 20 years of coaching that I have had a team without any seniors. It feels as though that was meant to be.
On Friday, a glimmer of hope arrived. The NCAA granted an extra year of eligibility to spring sport student-athletes. In theory, that’s great. But in reality, how would that work? Will all my players with restored eligibility decide to play a fifth year? We quickly read some NCAA rules and examined the options. The academic degree requirements tied to eligibility are quite restrictive in Division III. And, the price tag at Emory is a barrier to enrollment in the first place, let alone to staying a fifth year. But there are some NCAA and tuition exceptions when it comes to a fifth year that could make it plausible for many of my players to stay for a fifth year.
The question then becomes: can I really expect my players to put their lives on pause to spend another year with Emory Women’s Tennis? The “plan” for many of my players is to graduate in four years, get a job, and establish themselves in the workforce. But this pandemic is forcing us to think outside the confines of our predetermined plans and paths. It is forcing us to confront the fragility of the lives we have built and the stories we have told ourselves about the way things are “supposed” to be. With that being said, the decision to play a fifth year is as philosophical as it is logistical, as my players are going to have to weigh the pros and cons of extending their college careers, delaying their post-graduate careers, and adjusting to the new normal that this pandemic has created for them.
I guess we all just wait and see how everything unfolds. One thing I know – EWT will be back and we will be stronger than ever! Thank you for your continued support of our program and best wishes to you and your families during this tenuous time.
COVID-19 just bgaked on us all… real bummer
this would imply that bgak has any impact on our daily lives